How Will This Affect My Life?
Published on October 03, 2014
The key component of the question here is "Life". Everything we do has a cause and affect. Nothing we do or think happens in a vacuum. It all has an affect, yet far too often we give too much weight to issues that don't deserve it. How we view any and all outcomes can do this. Greatly impact the sub-conscious mind and as a result affect our current situation and ultimately our belief system. What we believe we can achieve. What we doubt gets shut out. So how do we deal with situations? What can we do to put it into perspective that will allow for the least impact? I was provided with a start example early in my day. I had a speaking engagement set and was up and out the door early to make it on time. The drive was just over an hour and a half. I arrived early as I most often do and sat waiting with my coffee and magazine to be called in. As the minutes ticked by I asked the receptionist if she thought they would be running on time. "Who are you here to see?" she asked. I told her and knew all was not right when she said, "Oh, I've not seen him this morning". A sinking feeling began to take hold. He's not here is he? I thought. A quick call to his cell confirmed the reality. We had gotten the date mixed up. The ride down the elevator was spent trying to come to terms with the hour and a half back on top of the entire morning that had slipped away. Walking out of the building I started asking the question of what I would tell a client if this happened to them. Then I started to laugh. Out loud actually. Here I was walking down the street all by myself laughing out loud. Here was the truth. This little miscalculation could appear crushing in the moment but lost its substance when cast in balance to the next,"How will this affect my life". Ah, there is the great equalizer. I had to admit the truth which was, "It won't". Not in any way shape or form. When I asked that question the situation lost all of it's power. I know that advice is easy to give and not so easy to apply, but this was one time when it had an instant affect. Do that. The next time something happens that is out of your control stop and ask the only question that matters, "How will this affect my life?" Then get on with what matters. Have an excellent day. Be well, Randy Taylor